There is a saying that expresses the idea that if a man wants to know how his girlfriend will be like when they marry, he has to observe and pay special attention to the attitudes of his girlfriend’s mum. In that way, he would know what to expect from his being not single any longer. Supposing this idea has something of a truth, it could be said that it is, in a way, predisposing a woman to be like her mother and, therefore, influencing the person’s behavior and attitudes.
“Oh! You are exactly like your mom!” “You resemble her so much that when I heard you say that, I thought they were your mum’s words.” (Haven’t you ever heard that?)
Well, I think there are two ways in which a girl can develop her personality when coming to adulthood and, especially, when having her own children. Either she tries (conscious or unconsciously) to imitate her mother and tries to keep in mind all the things she has taught her, or she creates an enormous gap between the way her mother is like and the way she is like.
What has happened to me is that I used to tell myself: “I will never do this or the other in the way my mum does” (this was usually thought when I got angry). However I shouldn’t have said “never”. There are many times in which I find myself using words which are characteristic of my mum’s vocabulary and, sometimes, I even behave like her and solve situations in the same way she would solve them.
I think this happens, not because she is my mum or because there is a saying which says so but because I have been educated by her. I believe that, unconsciously and inevitably, when you live with someone, you start borrowing some gestures, ideas and attitudes of that person (call it mum, friend, boyfriend). Haven’t you ever met a couple that shares the same ideas, likes the same things and hate the same things as well? Well, I think it is because of that.
So, my point is: never say “I will never do that in the way my mum does” because, believe me, you end up doing it! :P
“Oh! You are exactly like your mom!” “You resemble her so much that when I heard you say that, I thought they were your mum’s words.” (Haven’t you ever heard that?)
Well, I think there are two ways in which a girl can develop her personality when coming to adulthood and, especially, when having her own children. Either she tries (conscious or unconsciously) to imitate her mother and tries to keep in mind all the things she has taught her, or she creates an enormous gap between the way her mother is like and the way she is like.
What has happened to me is that I used to tell myself: “I will never do this or the other in the way my mum does” (this was usually thought when I got angry). However I shouldn’t have said “never”. There are many times in which I find myself using words which are characteristic of my mum’s vocabulary and, sometimes, I even behave like her and solve situations in the same way she would solve them.
I think this happens, not because she is my mum or because there is a saying which says so but because I have been educated by her. I believe that, unconsciously and inevitably, when you live with someone, you start borrowing some gestures, ideas and attitudes of that person (call it mum, friend, boyfriend). Haven’t you ever met a couple that shares the same ideas, likes the same things and hate the same things as well? Well, I think it is because of that.
So, my point is: never say “I will never do that in the way my mum does” because, believe me, you end up doing it! :P
And, to finish, some pictures of my mum and I J
before
If she ever gets to know I uploaded that picture, she kills me!
Four years ago
It happens the same to me. But as you said it's inevitable. You grow up with that person and for many years it’s your model in life, so you end up doing many things in the same way she does. Even though, I think we are lucky as we had that model and guide in our lives. I would be so lost if I hadn’t! I love your pictures!
ReplyDeleteOh!! Now I know where you get all that beauty and grace from! ha ha. But, comments aside, I would say that your claim holds some truth in it. Sometimes I find myself using the exact words my mum uses while I was addressing my children. However, I have said to myself repeatedly, in moments of unger, " I will not be like her, I have my own ideas and I won't make her same mistakes". Actually, I can't help it because I have been educated by her according to her ideas and values...
ReplyDeleteI think that we all have been influenced somehow by our mothers. There is no question of this. There are times when I don't like my mother's nagging and I keep on saying to myself that I won't do this to my children. However, I found out that sometimes I do it unconsciously!! It's inevitable, haha! Love the pictures!!!
ReplyDeleteIn my case people usually tell me that I´m exactly like my dad, in every single sense. And even though I try to figh it it, I have to admit that the way I´m today is thanks to his influence. So, yes, at some point I understand that sometimes we don´t want to be told that we are like our parents because we are afraid of start acting they way they do. But it´s not so bad, you know. Thanks to my dad, I know many things that I wouldn´t have learnt somewhere else.
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